Family stories are amazing to me.  You hear of family members long ago and through the retelling of their lives you can get an idea of who they were. And by hearing about who they were, you can find timeless wisdom that can apply to your own life now. My great grandma was one of those people.

She never said much but through what you heard and what you felt you knew she had lived life and learned from her experiences.  I’ll never forget the story my mom told me about Great Grandma.  Great Grandma cooked for a crew of 24 farmhands so most of her days were taken up cooking breakfast, lunch, and dinner for a bunch of loud, rowdy, complaining men coming in from hunting or farming, depending on the day.  She took care of five children as well so her house was a busy little place, but where you would find Grandma Etta the most would be in front of her stove, likely stirring a pot of something.

The kids would run in and she’d give them a hug and some kind of chore to take care of and then she’d go back to stirring.  The men would come in and clean up all the biscuits and bacon and then she’d start on the next meal, once again standing and stirring at the stove.  They’d tell her how wonderful her food was and then lay all their troubles at her feet as she listened and stirred.

One time, one of the farmhands broke his hand while mending a fence.  He finished the fence and then came in to get fixed up.  She stepped away from her stirring and cleaned up his hand while Grandpa got the doctor on the phone.  Once all was taken care of she went back to stirring.  The funny thing was, with as much stirring as Grandma did life seemed to just come to her.  She’d make a remark about how wonderful the fabric was in town and how she’d like to make Ruth a dress out of it.  That was all she would say and then she’d go back to stirring and somehow, some way, that fabric would appear from a neighbor or maybe the money would just happen to come along right at the right time.  It got to where if you wanted something and you convinced Grandma it was worth having then it would somehow magically appear, even through all the hardships they endured.

One time Ruth watched as the farmhands ate quickly and went back out to work, hearing all of them complaining about their lives.  Then one by one each one of her children came in to tell Grandma their own woes.  She would smile, give them some kind of advice, and keep stirring. Ruth watched sitting at the table and when everyone left she said, “Mother.  How can you just sit there and stir?  Everyone tells you how bad their life is and you just smile and stir?  Why don’t you just tell them that you’ve had enough and you can’t take anymore?  Do something… Stop stirring!” Grandma looked up at Ruth and smiled… and kept stirring.

“Ruthie don’t you know that the stirring is very important?  You see, when I’m stirring I’m putting all my thoughts and dreams into that pot.  I think on what I want life to be.  When Cleo came in with his broken hand I wished for him to be well and put my thought in my pot and stirred.  As everyone comes in and tells me about their life I put the love and positive thoughts into my pot and stir.  Then when they eat it they have been given a pot full of hope.  How do you think everything that comes to us, comes to us?  I put all my gratitude for my life into this pot and I stir.  If we have any kind of problems and I envision a solution and put it in my pot and stir. My stirring is what keeps me focused on what is good in the world.  As long as I stir I know it will all be taken care of.  So instead of worrying about all that is around me I keep stirring knowing that all is well.”

Ruth didn’t say a word.  She just watched Grandma keep stirring with a focused stare and a slight hint of a smile.  Grandma was working her magic into her life through stirring. So next time your outer world seems to be too much to bear, or you have a problem that you want solved, do what Grandma said.  “Keep stirring.  Just keep stirring and envisioning what you want.  You’ll make a pot of hope and dreams that will come true for you as long as you just keep stirring while you wait for it to be done.  No worries.  It’s all taken care of.  Just keep stirring.”

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Many of you have e-mailed Lee and I wondering how we get our books published and put on Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, and even libraries.  Lee and I are independent book published.  We wanted to help anyone out who is writing a book (any genre of book) and not sure where to take it or get it formatted.  Maybe you don’t know how to get it all done.  Or maybe you don’t want to have to order a thousand copies and just want ten or twenty to start with.  So we’ll let you in on how we have successfully gotten all of our books in the places it should be while keeping control of every step of where it goes and even editing. Take a look at:

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Thoughts of Abundance

Everyone seems to want something more than they currently have.  Whether it is a better relationship, a career, or just plain old money, we tend to seek and attain beyond what we have at the moment.  This is just as it should be.  We came to this physical reality to experience and to co-create.  We are a team with the Universe.  When we get something that we want we then move on to something else.  There is nothing wrong with that.  It’s what we all do, but having thoughts of abundance and creating through positive thought can bring you what you truly want in your life.

As humans we search for happiness.  We believe physical things will bring us happiness, or a perfect soul mate will deliver the happiness we seek.  The truth of the matter is that in order to be happy, you have to start from within yourself.  It is you, and only you, who can provide your happiness.  Others can enhance it but finding and keeping happiness is all within you.

When creating the world that you desire it takes a complete overhaul of thought.  It takes shifting your focus to a better feeling than what you perhaps are experiencing now.  When you create through thought you begin with the idea and then envision what it must be like to have what you want.  You begin envisioning abundance no matter what form it takes and you begin to shift your focus to recognize abundance everywhere.  By recognizing abundance within your world ― and focusing on that feeling ― you will create vibrations of abundance.

Look for abundant relationships around you; people who are abundant in their positive feelings for their career. Seek abundance in the trees or in the vast amount of cars going down the road.  Search out abundant thoughts.  If your physical reality is one based in lack, begin to change your thought patterns to reflect abundance in all areas.  Then start searching out what makes you happy.

Think about what in your life right now makes you happy.  If you are unhappy, start with small steps.  Find something within your world that makes you happy and dwell on that for a while.  Create happiness.  By shifting your focus to abundant thought and to thoughts of happiness you are in fact creating a future.

Become focused on the positive side of everything.  Make it your mission to search out the good.  Imagine and relish the feelings of the life you want as you go about your daily life creating ever more abundance and happiness in your thoughts and feelings.  As you feel better and better, and keep that focus going, your life will begin to take on a different tone.  You will have changed your own repetitive mental patterns of lack in every area of your life and will be living the life you truly desire. All it takes is you and your thoughts.  You have it all within your own reach. Create your reality through positive thought.  Give in to the emotions of joy and happiness and be excited for each day to come so that you can create another new day.

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It’s that time again…Law of Attraction Boot Camp is right around the corner! This is our 16th session. This is a four week course you can take from your own home. Lee and I interact with you through audio lockers to let you know what we think could be helpful to you and you alone. You’ll have tons of homework but will be full of insight and answers when you are all finished. Come join us for some fun and answers you are looking for.

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Well, Experience Radio launches today officially at 12 noon Pacific Time!  In case you don’t know, Experience Radio is a Positive Thought Radio Station heard on Live 365, Tivo, iPhone, iPod, etc., and Lee and I appear on it daily with Radio LOA.  There’s great Celtic Music and New Age Music, and lots of great (and positive!) Singers and Songwriters.

So here is the link to Experience Radio:

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Hope you enjoy it!

Replacing Old Habits with a New State of Mind

Just because it happened before doesn’t mean it will happen again.  YOU have the power to change it.

We can sometimes be under the impression that the situations that seem to keep coming back in life time and time again are there to stay but really…they’re not.

A repetitive cycle that keeps showing its face will go away once you face it.  Let’s say your repetitive cycle is about money.  You have moments where you have some but then you hit a cycle where nothing seems to be working.  All your money heads out the door and you get the feeling of déjà vu as if you have experienced this moment before.  You wonder if it will ever go away.

When you begin to use the Law of Attraction some of those cycles still come back usually because you haven’t dealt with the true lesson within the cycle.  And sometimes we do everything we can to get beyond a situation to go back to the same exact thinking we had.  Changing this cycle starts within you.  Remember any cycle is just like a habit.  It is a repetitive mental pattern that you have programmed from your own perceptions and beliefs and when you change the pattern and you make an effort to continue to change it you will see a big difference in your life.

Start by getting yourself a pad of paper and think about the cycle that keeps coming into your life.  Write down all your thoughts and feelings you may have on the subject.  As you write them down think on what thoughts in this cycle have become repetitive in your own mind.  For example:  Let’s say you have a repetitive thought pattern about money.  You’re always concerned you’ll never have enough, you constantly worry about the lack of money you have, and when money comes, you worry that it is already spent on things you wish you didn’t have to spend it on.  Each time money comes to your doorstep you worry that you won’t ever have any more.  When you go to the grocery store you are worried about how much prices have gone up and…lack, lack, lack.  This repetitive thought process is going to bring you more of the same.  The thought process is just a habit within your subconscious mind.  You have thought it and lived it enough that your subconscious has now picked it up as a mental habit and runs the loop through your mind each time you have a dime to your name.  Okay…now you can see where your thinking can create this particular reality.  This goes for anything in your life whether it be relationship to career the repetitive pattern becomes a habit.  Now that you have written down the cycle find yourself a complete opposite of the habitual thought.  As you begin to write down the positive statements of money really get into it.  Write down what you want to belief about money.  Write down how you wish it was.  Write down what you would do with the money if you could use it for what you wanted and not for bills.  Imagine you have that money to spend on anything you like and go on the internet and see what you would spend it on.  Create a new repetitive thought pattern for yourself.  Begin to memorize your new thoughts of what you want and when you find yourself going down the slippery slope of lack, stop, and replace those negative habits with the new affirmation you have created.  Get into the genuine thought of abundance.  Everyone can have it!  Everyone…you are no different than the rich guy on the corner.  So what if he has the education behind it.  There are many rich intelligent people out there who don’t have a college education.  That isn’t what is going to change your money mind.  What is going to change your mind and beliefs…is you.

As you begin to embrace the thoughts and joys of being prosperous you will find it coming into your life.  You will have created a new habit of mental thought for your subconscious and that mental loop will be your new life and the cycle that you used to dread will disappear from your life for good.

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Be the Example in your Child’s Life

Every parent wants their child to grow up to enjoy life and be successful.  Each and every one of us has something in our past that we don’t want our children to experience as they get older.  We protect them and nurture them hoping they will never experience hurt yet as they get older they come across their own struggles and we some how feel as if we have failed them.

“We should have seen that one coming” and we do everything we can to keep them from making our mistakes that we have made.  You noticed in that last sentence we put ‘making OUR mistakes’.  Your children are not you.  They are incredible little beings that choose you to experience life WITH.  They are not little ‘mini me’s’ that will make the same mistakes we have or learn the way we learn from our own experiences unless they have learned the offending behavior from you by example.

It’s important when we teach our children ‘how to be’ that we don’t encroach upon their own creativity in creating their life.  They learn from their surroundings and may perceive things in the way you do but most likely, even if you experience the same experience, perceive it differently. They may have the same fabric that you have within you but their experiences aren’t an exact replica of you.  They go off to school, have experiences that they only tell you about, and perceive that experience through their own thoughts and feelings mixed in with family behavioral patterns.  This is where you can make a difference.  Be an example.

Teach your child how to live life by being the person you would want them

to be.  Kindness to others, helping others, loving yourself, no judgments about other people, no gossip, and everything coming from love not fear.  As you learn this in your own self and apply it your child won’t need you to speak a word.

They will learn from your actions. If little Joannie doesn’t want to share with another child show them how to share.  Direct them in a direction of how you would want to be treated.  Show by example.  If your little one has shown behavior of not wanting to share next time you have a wonderful little treat show them what it is to share something you love and explain to them the feeling so they don’t dismiss it.  Next time they won’t share bring the sharing of your treat up and tell them to remember the feeling of giving and sharing.  Eventually they will learn.

Don’t you let others walk all over you and give no time to yourself?  Your child sees this and may repeat it as he/she gets older.  Treat others as you want to be treated because there is a very impressionable child learning behaviors from you.  Be the example of what you want your child to be through your own positive thoughts and feelings.  It is the best thing you can do for your child and yourself to ensuring a child of feeling accepted and loved as they get older.

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Problem Solving as a New Person

It takes new thought to solve a problem. To solve a problem, you can not use the same mind as your former self.  In order to solve problems you have to think outside the box and expect change.  If you have a repetitive problem that just keeps showing up in your life you have to think differently in order to solve it for good. So how do you go about thinking differently?

Begin to see the problem solved instead of seeing the problem.  Envision that the solution is there and no more problem.  If you focus on the problem you will have more problems to try and solve.  When you focus on the solution you will have more solutions for your problems.  Thinking differently takes you and only you.  It is the perceptions of others that you need to get away from.  There’s nothing wrong with asking for advice as long as you feel the advice is for you.  Their advice could be part of the answer as your solution.  It is when you announce to the world, “I have a problem.  I have a problem” and don’t focus on a solutions is when trouble ensues.  By focusing on a solution even if you don’t know the solution as of yet, you are emitting out vibrations of solution and the Universe will begin to work on bringing solutions to you.

When you’re able to get out of the limited box of what you ‘think’ the Universe can bring you many conventional and unconventional ways to the solution.  Just be aware of what the Universe is sending to you.  When you are able to make that shift you become a different person with answers.  You are no longer the same person with the problem but a new person with solutions.

When you become that new person who opened up to unlimited possibilities in a solution, you have shed more light on your own inner being and learned something new.  Everyday we grow within as a spiritual being and solving problems through solution visualizing will be another tool for you to begin to use as you continue your path on the Law of Attraction.  Each day is full of solutions and when you become aware of where to put your focus you will begin to see only solutions just as it should be.

Start attracting solutions into your life by focusing on the answer and not on the question and as you focus on the answer you will be sending out vibrations that the Universe will match and will bring straight back to you in the form of solutions.  Finding answers can be just that easy as you focus, trust, and release it all to the Universe to bring you an answer you may have never thought of.

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